Talking about Tolerance with my Mother.

Lee Tomlin (Psychotherapeutic Counsellor, and Energy Psychotherapist)   in London -
This Podcast is focusing on counselling/therapy in a relaxed manner, in the hope that by talking about different areas of counselling she  will help in lifting its profile and promoting its efficacy.  Speaking about subjects around therapy, health and how we can have more of a sense of  agency around our physical and mental Health.
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Transcript

 My mother Judy 

Who was a teacher in Ibiza at an an international school  and I feel mum has a good understanding of tolerance as she has lived with a disease since she was 30 she has a nasty degenerative disease called Ankylosing Spondylitis,  and this comes hand in hand with other health challenges such as Crones disease, general problems that come with an inflammatory disease like high blood pressure.

Talking about how she copes with this.

I  liked this quote 

“The highest result of education is tolerance.

Long ago men fought and died for their faith; but it took ages to teach them the other kind of courage, - the courage to recognise the faiths of their brethren and their rights of conscience”.

-      Helen Keller, Optimism (1903)
 ·    Tolerance of older women 

·    Intolerance when body is ill

·    Ageism and how it goes both ways.
 Since covid it seems we are less tolerant and this make sense as some of the ways we can build on our window of tolerance is; building social connections and improving lifestyle regular exercise etc all things we were restricted in during Covid. 
 Talking about the Window of Tolerance.
 When we are within our window of tolerance we are in what is called Optimal arousal zone we will be alert but calm relaxed and aware of how we can sooth ourselves and meet our needs . There is calm activation and calm deactivation 

Window of tolerance is where  things feel right, times when we are coping well, even when life throws difficult things our way

We might be calm, not always exhausted or we might feel ready but not anxious.

One side of the window.

Dysregulation: when we begin to not feel okay, anxious, overstimulated or angry, not lost control but not feeling particularly comfortable.

Hyperarousal; feeling anxious, out of control overwhelm and a tendency for fight or flight.